Every little girl dreams of what their wedding day will be like from the minute they read their first fairy tale story. The one where the princess finds her prince. Her one true love. Her soulmate. What happens if you’re sabotaging your own special day, that you’ve dreamed of for years, by making common wedding day mistakes?
From the moment that your prince charming got down on one knee, the only thing you have been able to think about is your wedding day. You become completely absorbed in the wedding planning process, carefully choosing all of the tiny details of your big day from the cake down to the invitations. Your big day feels so far away into the future, you’re convinced it will never arrive. As the months grow shorter, the to-do list grows longer, and you want everything to be absolutely perfect and memorable. Somehow, it all ends up coming together and your wedding day is finally here!
No matter how much planning you do, it can all get lost in the things that could go wrong. It won’t be perfect. You simply can’t control everything. Problems will come up, but how you handle them is what will make your dream day a fairy tale. Here are 10 common wedding day mistakes brides make that ruin their day. Keep reading to find out how you can avoid making them on your wedding day.
Forgetting what the day is really about
Out of the entire day, the ceremony typically goes by the fastest. Take a minute to just be in the moment because it all goes so fast. After so much time spent planning, you don’t want to forget a single second of it. The best advice I was given before my wedding day, was to stop and take mental pictures throughout the day. Memorize your husband’s reaction as you’re walking down the aisle. Let your first kiss linger and really remember how it feels. At the end of the night, when your in his arms on the dance floor, look around you and take it all in.
Obsessing over the small things
Don’t let the little problems or issues get in the way of your celebration. In the moment, it may seem like a big deal, but in the grand scheme of things is it really going to be? The only thing that went wrong on my wedding day was that bouquet was not made the way I wanted it. I could have gotten stressed out, thrown a fit about it, and been mad that the photographer couldn’t take as many pictures of it. I didn’t do any of those things. Instead, the florist insisted she could fix it and I let it go. The flowers are not the most important thing about the day and in the end they turned out beautiful. There is no need to stress about something that’s already done, just move on and don’t let it ruin your day.
3. Not making a timeline
Creating an organized wedding day itinerary is key to having a successful wedding day. For those brides who are planning to just “wing it” or “go with the flow,” you may want to think again. While a timeline may get changed or adjusted slightly throughout the day, it is important to have a good idea of what is happening and when.
When are you cutting the cake?
Who will be holding onto the rings?
How long will you be taking photos?
When will the first dance take place?
If you don’t take the time to plan this out ahead of time, things will be chaotic throughout the day. Suddenly, you’ll be rushing through pictures because dinner has to be served. 90% of your photos are taken after the ceremony and before the reception. How long will guests be kept waiting and uninformed? Before you know it, the entire evening will be running behind. Planning ahead and having a detailed itinerary will ensure you make the most out of the day.
4. Ignoring your guests
While it’s important to have a good time at your wedding reception, talking to your guests and interacting with everyone is a must! They all took time out of their schedules to come and support you. There is nothing more rude than spending all night on the dance floor with your college besties and forgetting about everyone else. Make it a priority to go around to each table and have a conversation. Let them know that you appreciate them. This is also an important note to make if you are working on your guest list. A bigger list of people, means more socializing and less partying. Be prepared for how long it’s going to take you to speak with all of your guests.
5. Forgetting to eat throughout the day
There is nothing worse than a “hangry bridezilla!” You will be nervous and have butterflies in your stomach the morning of your wedding day. That is completely natural. Try to make a point of eating little snacks throughout the day, even if you don’t feel like eating. If you go too long without eating, you won’t be feeling well by the time the ceremony comes around and you’re more likely to faint. You definitely want to avoid that! Also, everyone tends to get more irritable when they’re hungry. Eating before the ceremony is important for not only looking your best, but feeling your best.
6. Running out of time to get ready for the big day
Although it may be tempting, do not wait until the last minute to get your hair and makeup done. Many brides believe that their look will not last throughout the day if it applied too early. However, a professional makeup artist and hair stylist should be skilled in creating a lasting beauty look. Starting early will ensure that you have enough to get a completed look without feeling rushed and also making sure the artists have enough time for the wedding party too.
With that said, do wait to put your dress on. Wait as long as you can to put your dress on. You don’t want to spend any more time in it than necessary because the longer you’re wearing it, the more chances there are for wrinkling and staining.
7. Not taking the time to break in your shoes
Nothing ruins a big day like a blister. The last thing you want on your wedding day is to be limping around in shoes that are causing you pain. Even minor foot pain can really interfere with your day. Don’t let this happen to you! Order or buy your shoes months in advance. Wear them around the house while you’re doing chores. See where they start to rub or if anything begins to feel comfortable after wearing them for awhile. By doing this, you can avoid having pain and blisters.
If it starts to feel too tight in the toes, you can work on stretching them out. If it starts to create blisters on the back of your heel, you can put a small piece of foam or wear a band-aid there the day of to prevent it from happening. Also, consider having a secondary pair of shoes, such as flats. This way, if you do start to feel pain, you can simply change out of them part-way through the day. Being prepared for any scenario it the best way to have a successful wedding day.
8. Refusing to put the phone away
Your wedding day is all about enjoying the little moments and being present. There is no minor detail that you want to overlook or miss out on. This day only happens once in your lifetime (if you’re lucky). Snap chat, Instagram, status updates, and text messages can all wait.
First of all, no one needs to be updated on every little moment of your wedding day. Second, there is nothing happening on your phone or on social media that is more important than your wedding day. Third, the people who are most important to you, should already be there as guests or part of your wedding party.
My advice would be to take a moment to respond to congratulatory messages in the morning while you’re getting ready or having a bite to eat. Completely stay off social media the entire day. So you’re not tempted, leave your phone in your hotel room for the day, if possible. For vendors or anyone who may need to get a hold of you, designate someone to take those calls and solve those problems for you. This could be a family member or wedding planner.
9. Stressing out and micromanaging the day of
Let the professionals you’ve hired do their jobs. You’ve spent months, a year, maybe even more planning just for this one day. Trust the florist to arrange the flowers in a beautiful way. Trust the baker to deliver the cake on time. Know that there is nothing more that you can do. Relax and stop worrying. The small stuff won’t even matter after you’ve seen your future husband waiting for you at the end of the aisle. Delegating the tasks to other people will also make you feel all at ease. You can’t do it all yourself and the morning of your wedding, you simply won’t want to.
10. Not saying thank you
Be sure to say thank you to everyone who helped make your special day perfect. Don’t forget to appreciate the people who are important to you and worked hard on your behalf. This includes parents, siblings, friends, relatives and even vendors. You will be busy the day of your wedding and throughout the entire celebration, but taking a moment to show that you care is so important.
11. Having drama in the wedding party
Your wedding day should be about you and no one else. The last thing you need is drama the morning or even week of your wedding. If you’re always on the rocks with one particular friend, maybe you shouldn’t ask them to be in your wedding party. You should only choose people who will support you and make you feel special. Try to avoid creating excess drama between friend the best you can while planning for the wedding day.
12. Not spending enough alone time with your new husband
Spend some time with just your husband. This may sound obvious, but a wedding can get hectic. Trying to fit everything in can get overwhelming. Try to schedule 5-10 minutes before the reception starts to be with only each other. It’s a magical day for you as a couple and you should celebrate it together. Kiss them throughout the day. Whisper sweet things in their ear. Be romantic and be in the moment with each other. Remember all the things that made you fall in love and create new special memories together.